How not to lie?

We all time: someone in small things, even without realizing it, and someone in big, knowing full well what he is doing. A little lie is an ordinary thing from time to time, but what if you lie so much that you have already forgotten where the truth is, and where is the fiction? The constant desire to lie is already a pathology, and in particularly neglected cases it is worth turning to a professional psychologist. Well, we will consider an easier version of this problem. How to learn not to lie, when so and pulls often embellish reality or lie in anything?

How not to lie: advice

Many people tend to lie in order tolook in the eyes of others more interesting and attractive. They write whole stories about their achievements, adventures, acquaintances with famous and popular people, wealth, etc. Such lies are typical for people with low self-esteem, for those who do not love themselves and do not accept their individuality. There is only one way out: you need to properly understand yourself, in your pros and cons, understand what you really are, and accept yourself as the present. You need to love yourself, get a healthy self-esteem - then the desire to lie to yourself will disappear, and then you will want to lie to others about yourself.
Many can be useful advice: Imagine that the truth is revealed (and very often it happens). How do you feel in this situation? How do you after that talk with someone you are going to lie to, and look into his eyes?
To stop lying, you need to consciously yourself thisto prohibit. To do this, you need to think hard about your problem. First, realize that this shortcoming really exists and spoils your life. Then remember, in what situations you are being tempted to lie, think about why this is happening and how it can be avoided. Promise yourself to stop lying. After that, in every situation, once you are drawn to a lie, remember your promise - this will help stop the lie.
Imagine yourself in the place of the person you aretime. Unpleasant? You trust the person, and he, in turn, lies to you. Who would like to be in a similar situation? Of course, no one. Before you lie to a man, try to swap places with him and imagine yourself on his side.

Lies for the good

There is also a lie for good - when a persondeliberately lying to another, so as not to hurt him. If we go further into this topic, we can conclude that lying for good is really a double-edged sword. Lying for good, you can both save a person, and cause him even more harm. It is very important to learn to distinguish when such a lie is justified and really needed, and when it is harmful. Let us consider two examples.

In an incomplete family consisting of a mother and daughter(the father has died) the girl is interested in the mother, where her father is. The girl is still very small, but very concerned about the lack of a father. In this situation, you need a lie for good. In order not to injure the child's psyche, it is better for the mother to lie, saying that the pope went on a long trip, that he loves them and remembers them, but he can not go back. Later, when the daughter grows up, will fully understand what the death of a person is, carefully it will be possible to tell the truth.
Consider a household example. Let's say that your girlfriend made a very unsuccessful haircut or bought a dress that obviously spoils her figure. She is interested in you, how she looks, and you, trying not to offend her, lie, make her false compliments. The girlfriend, having decided that everything is in order, continues to walk with the same haircut or increasingly wears a new dress. You understand that it looks ridiculous in the eyes of others, but you can not admit that you lied, you can not. Obviously, it was necessary to gently tell the person the truth.

Know how to recognize when you can, or maybe you should lie, and when you need to tell the truth. In any case, excessive striving for lies is harmful, and it is necessary to get rid of it.