How to forgive a loved one?

If the offense is strong, it is very difficult to forgive. Few manage it. Sometimes we deceive ourselves, thinking that everything has passed, and we have forgiven a person, but deep inside the insult is alive and eating us. This can greatly damage the relationship - the present or the future.

How to forgive a man's offense?

If your loved one has hurt you,Wait until the first emotions come to rest. Get out and think about the situation. And it's even more effective to write a letter. Take a pen and a sheet of paper, sit down and write. Pour out all emotions on paper. Do not think - let emotions go freely.

The insult consists of five layers. At the very surface lies anger, then there is disappointment and bitterness, then - insecurity, fear, the fourth layer - repentance, understanding that you have a certain responsibility for your relationship and what is happening in them. The fifth layer is love. It is to this, the final layer, you need to get to let go of the insult. Understanding that you still love this person will ease the emotional burden - you will remember everything that attracted you to your beloved, than he subdued you, what positive things he did.

By free "splashing out" of feelings on paperyou have to go through all 4 groups of emotions and come to the last. When you can write that you love - sincerely felt it, then the grievance will subside. After that you can calmly discuss with your loved ones this situation. Tell me what you feel - without reproaches, calmly, but frankly. Perhaps he did not think how much you hurt. After such a conversation, reconciliation will come, and the grievance will finally pass.

How to forgive treason

For many girls, betrayal means the endrelations. But a more wise decision is not to rush. Use the method with the letter - it will help to restore order in emotions. Calm down and think. They say that both are guilty of treason. So, the husband can go "on the side" when he feels alienated by the beloved - and he can seek love, tenderness, caress outside the home. Maybe you should work on yourself and your attitude to your beloved person?

In any case, the situation must be negotiated. Together you can understand how to solve the problem. Even if you part, try to forgive him. Write letters and burn, say mentally what you forgive and release. Understand - forgiveness is not so much for him as for you: after all the accumulated grievances will not allow us to live fully and happily.

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