Is it worth it to get divorced?
Let's start with the fact that thoughts of divorce do not come inhead loving each other happy couples. The question of whether to divorce arises only when family relations do not satisfy one or both spouses. If both, then the problem is solved much easier. And when such thoughts come to your mind only you - there is a huge uncertainty and unwillingness to take responsibility for such a step. Only you can decide your life.
But still, do not cut down the heat. You can not lift a shed, you can not bring it back. But also to keep from last forces for the exhausted relations too it is not necessary. Yes, divorce is a serious step, but if you correctly analyze your situation and understand that there is no further joint future, only a divorce will help you to start a new life and become happy. This is our main goal and meaning of life, to be happy. Only two emotions give us happiness in life: interest and joy. Everything else, than we surround ourselves with in life - work, family, hobbies, these are the mechanisms and ways of getting these emotions. Let's test ourselves a little. Answer honestly, to yourself the following questions:
- Am I happy now?
- If I could return to the past, with today's knowledge, would I once again choose my spouse?
- If not, what now prevents me from divorcing him?
The answer to the last question will beyour guide to action. If you can not divorce, because you have nowhere to live - look for the option to find your own home. If you believe that you will never again find such a sensitive / caring / attentive person who will understand you so well, you are mistaken. On the contrary, remaining with him - just never will.
Is it worth it to get divorced from her husband
Here are the reasons why you just need to get divorced, in my subjective opinion:
- First, it is chronic alcoholism. Do not think that you will be able to re-educate your husband one day. Do not pretend to be a Savior. So, you only get yourself more trapped, under the title "He's lost without me". And with it you will be lost too. The question of whether to divorce her husband is no longer so relevant. You must do this.
- Secondly, this is the betrayal of her husband. Sex is the basis of a strong family. If there was a betrayal, then you do not satisfy your husband in a sexual way, so that he does not tell you there. And this means that sooner or later, he will leave you. Only the later it happens, the harder it will be for you to meet a new love.
- The third reason is whether to divorceimmediately - this is assault. If the husband hit you at least once, then he is like a man is inferior. Strong, there is no need to assert itself at the expense of the weak. And be sure, once you have a weak, incomplete man - once he can cripple you or even your children.
If such extreme manifestations in your familylife is not and never was, try to still save your marriage. You can refer, for example, to a family psychologist, or try to diversify your family life, most importantly - do not be afraid to experiment!