I love the former, what should I do?

Breaking the relationship is always a stress,especially for the female because of his special emotionality. And when after the separation there are still feelings, women inevitably come to the question "what if I love the former?"

In this article we will try to answer this common question.

Love or habit?

If you broke up with your lover, but stillfeel for him, you need to understand yourself before you elevate yourself to the category of "the most unhappy women on earth." It is important here to rethink the reason for the severance of relations. For example, you broke up your fault, you deeply injured a man or did something very unpleasant for him. In this case, you are tormented not only by love, but also by remorse. And for sure you want to return your loved one. In such situations, try again to win his trust and change yourself, so as not to repeat past mistakes in the future.

But there is another option. You're tired... This means that you are tired of forgiving, reconciling, compromising, tolerating and all in this spirit. That is the reason in it. Ask yourself: do you still love this person who caused you so much pain, or just go on about the banal attachment? Believe me, your fate depends on an honest answer. And if you deceive yourself, that such a man is sent to you by God and you no longer love anyone so much, perhaps you will return it ... but everything will repeat in a similar scenario. And, maybe, even worse. On the topic, we recommend reading our article. What to do if I love him, and he does not.

Fear or necessity?

The next question to be addresseda woman who loves the former, looks like this: are you sure that you need a man, or are you just afraid to be alone? Alas, most women differ in excessive attachment to their loved ones, that after parting prevents them from living a full life, and some also deprives them of the ability to think sensibly.

They, in simple terms, embody the bookthe phrase "I can not live without you!" And really can not! But after all, former and former ones, that they should be left behind, to thank for all the good and look to the future with a clear gaze. Some people take years to do this, while others remain in that "good life". Just think: if everything was so perfect, why did you break up? So, both of you did not like something in the relationship, it was not so, wrong, not according to your desire ...

Now you have a chance to fix everything anddo as we would like. It is very likely that with another person you will succeed. Just "open up" to him. Let go of your ex, because he too has a similar path. Do not be afraid that you can not live without it, because they could not.

Of course, there is an option that you reallylose "your man" because of some trifles. You can not allow this, so you will have to prove to yourself and him that you need to be together, and fix all that hinders you in this matter. But before that, analyze your feelings more than once: often love takes a different form to check whether we are worthy of it.

Men are advised to read our article. What to do if she has fallen out of love.