How can I say that I do not like?
Lawless Heart! Sometimes we can not reciprocate the love of another person. It happens that, being married for many years, we get used to the spouse and love grows into friendship. Sometimes, we meet another person who fuels a fire of love in the heart, and the partner still needs to say: "Good-bye." And sometimes, we are forced to refuse a passionate admirer or fan. Then we begin to rack our brains: "How can I say that I do not like, and yet do not offend a person?". Consider how to make your refusal or report of a rupture less painful.
Break of long relations
First of all, answer yourself to the question: Are you really not in love with a person? Do you really want to part? Maybe this is a temporary alienation, provoked by a quarrel or unfavorable circumstances of life? Psychologists recommend to imagine life without a partner. Will you feel comfortable, or will you be tormented by memories of the past few minutes of happiness?
If you have considered everything and still decided to sayfatal words, then do not pull with the conversation. Either way, your partner will feel something is amiss. Do not stretch the agonizing moment, it is better to survive the gap, recover and find a new love.
That your words do not sound like a thunder among theclear sky, you can prepare a partner a little. Try to spend less time together, avoid any pretexts, avoid tactile contacts and physical intimacy. If you break the psychological connection, it will be much easier to say that you do not love.
At the very beginning of the conversation, say that between youit's all over - and this is your final decision. Prepare yourself for the fact that the reaction can be different, in advance lose in the head different versions of events.
- The partner starts to accuse, shout, scold,curse, remember all your sins. The main thing is, do not get involved in a squabble, do not make excuses. And the more so do not start yourself scolding your partner and pointing out his shortcomings. React calmly. Say something like this: "I understand that it's very hard for you, let's discuss this later when you calm down." Let's part in kindness. "
- The partner begins to cry, to fall into hysterics,beg not to abandon him or her, threaten to commit suicide, etc. This behavior is especially characteristic of women. It is very difficult to sustain such a scene, but you will have to do it if your decision is firm. Try to comfort the partner, thanking for all the good things that were in your relationship, focus on the positive qualities of a husband or wife. Nevertheless, clearly formulate your decision so that your partner does not have empty hopes.
- Partner closes in itself, does not react to yourthe words. Then leave it alone, do not press, do not ask for an immediate answer. Perhaps a person just needs time to digest the information received and think about everything.
Letter
"I do not like, but I can not say ..."If you can not pronounce heavy words, write about it, just do not write on social networks, chats, e-mail. Write a regular letter, but do it only as a last resort, because it's better to talk about such serious things in person. The letter is good that you can clearly build your arguments, no one will interrupt, cry, beg to change the decision, which was already given to you with great difficulty.
Refusal to the fan
You have admitted to love, and you think: "How can I say that I do not like?". Make it simple. After all, if you did not have a long relationship, then you will not inflict a deep wound on your refusal. On the contrary, you will not allow the development of relationships that are doomed to failure.
You can thank a person for goodattitude, emphasize its dignity, but refer to the fact that you already have a partner or you are in love with another / another. The main thing is, do not give a man a vain hope, do not pull, do not say what you think. Try to stay with a fan or fan of friends or at least keep a good relationship. If you refuse tactfully, then it is quite possible.
