Why do you have what you have?
Admit, you sometimes wonder "Why do I live the way I live?" Or "Why do I have what I have?"
If yes - today I want to share with you the answer to this question and tell you about the Dilts pyramid. At least, how I understand it and how I use it for myself and my clients.
Robert Dilts, one of the best knownexpert developers in neuro-linguistic programming (personally, I love him fondly for writing for writers and journalists), offered a model convenient for describing your life in the form of a pyramid.
The peculiarity of the model is that for each level of the pyramid the answer to the question "Why is this so?" Lies one level higher.
The lower level of the pyramid, the level of your life,Your daily routine, answers the question "What do I have?" This applies to your finances, your work or business, your home, your family, your social circle, etc.
If you ask the question "Why do I have that,what do I have? ", the answer will have to go to the second level, where your actions are located. This level answers the question "What am I doing?" - and it is obvious that what you do from day to day depends very much on what you have in the end.
If you ask the question "Why do I do what?"do? ", the answer will lie at the third level, the level of strategy. This level answers the question "How do I choose?" - and how you make decisions, how you make your choice, what strategy you follow ("strive for more" or "do not strain," "live for today" or "plan for years ", etc.), depends on how you will act in each specific situation.
For example, will you, returning home withwork, read special literature, play sports - or drink beer in front of the TV. Or will you at the job offer new projects and take responsibility for them - or will you try your best to do only the familiar and understandable work
If you ask yourself, "Why do I choose what I choose?", I'll have to go up another level of the Dilts pyramid to get an answer.
On the fourth floor are your beliefs, heanswers the question "What do I believe in?" And here it is already clear that if you believe that you can find a good job only by means of blat, you will not be too zealous with your studies. And if you are convinced that perseverance wins any obstacles - it is obvious that if something does not come out, it will be natural for you to try again, and again, and again ...
Well, if you ask the question "Why do I believe inthen, what do I believe in? ", the fifth level of the pyramid, responsible for self-awareness and self-identification, will help to understand this. He answers the question "Who am I?" - and your beliefs depend on the answer to this question. Obviously, a person who says "I'm a bereave and no one needs a loser" and a person who says "I'm a genius and born to succeed", pictures of the world will be completely different.
Finally, the last level of the pyramid is the levelmission, the level of meaning of life. He responds, as you might guess, to the question "Why should I live?" In my opinion, this level is accessible only to religious people, because it assumes that the meaning of your life lies outside of life itself and is appointed by someone from outside, not by you.
Why do you need to know about the Dilts pyramid? First, it allows you to better understand why you live as you live, and why you have what you have - it allows you to conduct an express analysis of your own life. And secondly, it allows you to understand what exactly needs to be changed in your life in order to get the output of another, more pleasing result - and for this you need to rise to the level (or more) up the pyramid.
According to one of the principles of system analysis, "the problem can not usually be solved at the level at which it is set"
If you are not satisfied with what you have, bethen the environment or finances - the Dilts model will show that you need to change your actions. If seemingly correct actions do not lead to the desired result - you need to change the strategy as a whole. If you do not understand where to change the strategy - it means you have to dig into your beliefs, something is wrong with them. Etc.
Well, ladies and gentlemen - now, when you applied the model of Dilts to yourself, did you see where your life was stalling, and what should you do to stop it skidding?
