How to become hard?
Hardness of character and self-confidence result from our internal state and are conditioned by a model of behavior based on past decisions and actions that we have committed.
Where to begin
Accordingly, in order to change one's character, one must perform actions peculiar to the type of character that you would like to have.
Therefore, you must first be very responsibleconsider those qualities that you would like to see in yourself, from real people and study their behavior patterns, characterizing these qualities. That is, simply choose a role model or, let's say, a certain role model.
It does not have to be an ideal person,it is enough to select those features that you find important and necessary for you, and to study how they manifest themselves in life. You need to consider everything very carefully and understand, is this really what you need? Would you like to be like that? So would you like to act?
It is very important to maintain reasonable harmony inrelations with people. Do not look at others from high, but self-deprecation is unnecessary. You need to love yourself! But this love should not cause pain and suffering to other people. On the contrary, it should be the basis of love for others.
In this case there is a definition of a person,written in ancient Rome and it sounds like this: "Equal among equals." Or there is one more measure of morality: "Do unto others as you want them to do unto you." It is very important to realize that hardness and cruelty or rudeness are completely different things.
All people seek happiness and suffer in this life. Do not forget this and be vindictive. Forgiving is the quality of strong people.
Qualities of a person with a strong character
- A hard man can express, if necessary, his opinion without worrying about what others think or say.
- A hard man, he is a determined person and acts thoughtfully, carefully and adequately, regardless of opinions and prejudices.
- He is self-confident and self-sufficient, he makes decisions, and, having accepted, does not worry and does not experience.
- If he made a mistake - he corrects it and is responsible for his actions.
- Self-control is a very important quality for a solid person.
How to become solid
To become hard, you need to change the behavior pattern. We must overcome our inner weakness and commit the act that must be done. This seems impossible, but it is not.
Everything can change overnight, but it willBump yourself up until the new role model becomes stable. After a while, actions that previously provoked fear and despair or seemed to be impossible at all will become natural and it will not be clear how one could act differently.
It's good to start small and gradually move forward, but if you do not manage to overcome yourself, do not despair. Everything is possible, you just need to continue and not give up.
Sharply change the behavior pattern and keep ituntil the establishment of a new model of behavior itself can be difficult. Then it's good to find a friend who can help you stay, not experiencing false kindness and gentleness, ready to help you cope with yourself.
If this person is your authority andthe same will have the necessary qualities - this can greatly simplify your task. A good friend can not only help you pass this path, but also make it much more pleasant and fun.
Seeking help from someone and opening up to him is an important undertaking in itself and speaks of the determination to go through this path of change.
You can also read the article How to become evil.
