How to believe people?
Some people have lost confidence in others,They were often used and deceived. As a result, they close in their own world, remaining alone. But this is not an option, since a person can not live alone, he constantly communicates with other people. Below you can learn how to trust people.
Learning to trust people
When belief in people is lost and you do not expect anything good from life, you need to try to restore trust to others, otherwise you risk staying alone.
Find out why you are betrayed and deceived
If you are constantly betrayed by people, you needanalyze the situation and try to find the reason for this. Perhaps, you behave towards others not quite correctly, or you yourself often pushed a knife in the back to close people. If this is so, then you need to change and try to support others and come to their aid: not because of self-interest, but because you want to do it. People will certainly appreciate this gesture and will begin to trust you. And thanks to mutual trust will be able to build a warm relationship.
If you are not once betrayed, tryunderstand why this happened. What motivated a man to do this? Finding the answers to these questions, you can in the future not make mistakes and do not trust such people.
Leave in the past resentment and betrayal
If you are often betrayed by people and you keep on themevil, try to get rid of offenses, leave them in the past. After all, this is an extra load that only hurts you. Start everything from scratch, try again to believe in people. To do this, make new acquaintances, try to build friendly relations, communicate more with people, interact with them, ask them for help in this or that matter. In the end, you can regain faith, without which it is very difficult to live.
Do not wait for a blow in the back
It has long been noted that fear attractsnegative events. If you are afraid of trusting people and constantly expecting them to hit in the back, then in the near future you will definitely get it. Do not think about the bad, you must radiate only positive waves. If you were betrayed many times, this does not mean that it will happen the next time. Do not turn to people who wish you well, with your back, better smile at them and let them into your life. Try to do this with one person, for sure you are getting closer. It is not necessary to see the enemy in everyone, it is better to look for friends among them, and you will find them. Look at the world positively and understand that all people are different and they sometimes make mistakes, and you are not an exception.
Exercises to trust people
Again, people will believe in exercises. You need to lie down or net and relax. You can count from 50 to 1. Imagine yourself on the river bank, look at it, admire the surrounding landscape. Take a seat on a stone, lower one hand into the water and tell the river about all the betrayals and grievances that were inflicted on you. Ask the river to pick them up from you. After that, you can thank her and open your eyes. Begin all with a clean slate, forget about your past forever and with faith in the soul communicate with people. You can do this exercise on the river bank, then the effect will be better.
There is also another exercise that allowsrestore confidence in people. Take a pen and a piece of paper. Divide it into 2 parts. In the first, write the situations in which you were betrayed and deceived, and in the second - helped. When finished, reread your entries, then break the sheet into 2 parts; First, in which negative situations are described, burn, imagining how the fire takes all the negative from your life. Read the second part again and keep it in front of your eyes. When you have trouble, take a sheet in your hand and read everything that is written on it. So you will be charged positively, and your faith in people will only grow stronger.
Are not you exaggerating too much?
People tend to make an elephant out of a fly and oftenexaggerate reality. Perhaps you just discriminate against people and pay attention to trifles. Try to abstract yourself from all this and get rid of unnecessary suspicion, then life will play with bright colors and faith in people will return. It is very important to look at the situation from different angles, then its understanding will come and emotions will go away.
Trust but check
It is necessary to believe people, but it is better to check them,especially for new acquaintances. So that they will not betray you, try to spread less about your life, and if the new acquaintance seems suspicious to you, listen to your intuition and keep it, as they say in people, at arm's length. You can even provoke a situation in which you urgently need his help, and look at the person's reaction. If he turned away from you, then your intuition turned out to be right, you should follow your feelings in the future. Well, if a new friend immediately offered help and took any action, then you can later rely on this person. In this case, your suspicions were based on negative experience, and you almost lost a friend because of this.
More tips for acquiring faith in people can be found in our article How to Learn to Trust.